We can put aside rudeness and meanness to look for gold AfterĪll, it doesn’t make much sense to argue with an But if the Stoics had the opportunity to choose, theyĪbove insults is a more mature posture that will allow you to shield your inner peace. He asked himself: “Who is invincible? He who cannot beĭisturbed by anything other than his reasoned decision.”ĭoes this mean that if attacked we should not defend Harm, it is better to let it run its course and not hold on to it.Įpictetus shared this idea. Had nothing against emotions, but in case of an unwanted emotion that can cause We can resort to logic and go beyond the initial emotion. Time between the stimulus/insult and our reaction we can give a more reflexive Breathe, think and then decide what to do. Insult is the most powerful way to fight back because it shows self-control and Listens impassively to the small curses thrown at him”. A great and noble person is one who, like a great wild animal, When getting revenge, many take small humiliations too To itself The greatest form of disdain is to consider that the adversary is He wrote: “A great mind despises the grievances made We must not let that insults ruin our day or give them Hand, thought that anger always lasts longer than pain, so it makes no sense toīe angry at an insult. He wrote: “The best revenge is not to be like the Insult us the possibility of manipulating our emotions. Prominent Roman and Stoic emperor, thought that we should not grant those who If we are learning to play piano and the supposed “insult”Ĭomes from our teacher, perhaps it is a constructive criticism that we should The last filter through which we must pass an “insult” is toĪssess its source. If he’s not an informed personīut is speaking from ignorance, we simply should not take his opinion intoģ. We should value what he is saying, even if at first it causes us rejection or does Whether our interlocutor is at least well informed. Intelligently comes from the hand of Epictetus, who recommends us to assess The next step that we must take to respond to an insult So that it doesn’t become a sensitive point that makes us jump every timeĢ. Maybe we should do something to change that characteristic, or just accept it, Of our characteristics, for example, it is not an insult, regardless of the Moment to consider whether the words are true. If we feel insulted, Seneca suggests that we stop for a This philosopher added: “No one can harm you without yourĬonsent, you will be hurt the moment you allow them to harm you.” The 3 filters of the Stoics to evaluate insultsīefore we reply back when someone insults us we make it pass through theseġ. Must allow that insult to settle inside us. It is a difficult thing to digest, but to be insulted, we Person, his acts or words, but our judgment on what happened. In fact, Epictetus thought that insulting is not the Instead, we need to be aware that the line between an insult and a constructive criticism can become very subtle and subjective. Then the amygdala reacts as if we were in danger and we stop behaving rationally. Instead of letting emotions take over, we have to activate our logical thinking by focusing on the facts.Įmotional hijacking occurs when we consider that insult as an attack on our ego. To respond to an insult intelligently we need to prevent an emotional hijacking. To stop this mechanism we must understand that theĮmotional brain does not work rationally, it fills in the blanks and rush toĭraw conclusions regardless of whether the criticism is valid. We must not only deal with the insult but also with the unpleasant emotions it
Usually react automatically by getting defensive. Intelligently, for our own psychological well-being.īlock, however, is our emotional brain. When foolish words flutter around us, we need to learn to reply back Or even aggressiveness is as useless as taking poison waiting to harm the other. It’s not good, but responding with anger, frustration InsultsĮveryone, to a greater or lesser extent, tasted theīitter taste of insults. You how to reply back when someone insults you. He chose to be faithful to the principles of Stoicism, which teach He chose to regain control of the situation and respond more
He did not get stuck in humiliation,įrustration or anger, but quickly turned the page. To accept an apology from the aggressor saying, “I don’t even remember being hit.”Īlthough his behavior may seem strange to us, Cato simplyĭecided not to hold on to what happened. When they interrupted the fight, he refused
Seneca said that one day, while Cato visited public
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